As the holiday season comes into full swing, we want to acknowledge something many people experience but rarely say out loud:
Going through a divorce or co-parenting after one can feel significantly harder this time of year.
Between shifting schedules, financial pressure, school breaks, gift expectations, and family traditions, emotions often run higher than usual. Even in the healthiest co-parenting relationships, December brings challenges that can feel overwhelming.
Common holiday stresses we hear from clients:
- “Our parenting plan doesn’t perfectly fit our holiday schedule.”
- “My co-parent and I are struggling to compromise on travel, pick-up times, or who gets which holiday.”
- “Everything feels emotionally heavier this time of year.”
- “I feel guilty that the holidays look different now.”
- “I don’t want to ‘ruin the season’ by asking for help.”
If any of this sounds familiar, we want you to know:
You are absolutely not alone. You’re human and these feelings are normal.
Many families experience this same tension, and it has nothing to do with failing as a parent or “not doing the holidays right.” Divorce adds complexity, and the holidays magnify that complexity.
A few thoughts to help you navigate the season:
- Stick to what’s written first, then adjust when it serves your child’s well-being or your needs as co-parents.
- Communicate early and in writing if holiday plans need adjustments. Setting shifted expectations as early as possible can be incredibly helpful.
- Give yourself permission to create new traditions. Children are more adaptable than we often assume.
- Don’t ignore your stress or overwhelm. It does not mean you’re weak, it means you’re processing a major life transition.
- Reach out if your parenting plan isn’t fitting your family anymore. This is extremely common and can often be addressed.
Please remember, your well-being matters. If you need support, clarity, or want to adjust your plan for future years, we’re here, contact us today.
